33 Ways For 33 Dayspaulsdunne2019-10-31T12:51:41+10:00
An introduction to a series of techniques, applications & practices
Taken from “33 Ways for 33 Days”: techniques for change
New and Proven Ground-breaking techniques based on research and demonstration.
Importance of 33 Days
As far back as 1896 research has been carried out to see how turning the light coming into our eyes upside down might affect our perception and our behaviour. This was achieved by using goggles which made the world appear upside down. G.M. Stratton (David P. McGovern, 2012)was one of the first to recognise that our brain has the ability to adjust itself. Further experiments have been undertaken over the years including some by the American National Aeronautics and Space Administration (NASA).
The NASA agency was researching the effects of gravity on its astronauts. In particular, they were interested in any effects on the astronauts of being upside down in space. Part of the research was to have a number of potential astronauts wear a set of goggles, continuously for 30 days. These goggles made the world look like it was upside down in the mind of the viewer.
After a period of 28 to 30 days, subjects recognised the world as the right way up. Their brains created fresh neural pathways that turned the upside-down image that came to their eye, the right way up. It was also of interest that when the trainees removed the goggles, it took a similar time of 28-30 days for their world view to return to the way in which you and I perceive it to be.
An extension to this research later demonstrated something everyone needs to understand if they want to change the way they think, and particularly if they want to change a habit.
NASA researchers found that any astronauts who removed the goggles at any time during this 30 period did not experience the long-term change expected. Some astronauts removed the goggles on the 15th day and they then had to start from the beginning. These particular astronauts needed to replace the goggles for a further 28-30 days before the plasticity of the brain was permanent enough to allow any lasting change. The conclusion, it takes an uninterrupted period of around 30 days to rewrite a program in your brain, and change the way you perceive facets of your world.
Is the above research factual? Well yes the experiments were undertaken however the figure of 28-30 days is up in the air. The bottom line it seems is that it does take a period of time to change the effects of a core belief and it does take somewhere between 6 and 66 days to change a complicated belief. The more complicated the longer the period for change. There seems to be two major variables to change to effect change in behaviour. The first is the ability of the brain to change its neural pathways based on neuroplasticity, and the second is the ability to change a belief that is stored in the Inner Mind. All of this is thrown out with the window when the power of hypnosis is introduced into the discussion.
The reason I mention this research is because the 33 Ways for 33 days’ program is designed to provide you with options for reprogramming the Inner mind and for developing new pathways for a different way of thinking. It will take a period depending on what you intend to change; however, 33 days will provide you with an indicator. There is no magic number. It is not 21 days as Maxwell Maltz mentioned in his book Psychocybernetics, and it is not 30 as the elusive NASA research reports, and it is not 66 as is suggested elsewhere. I like 33 as a good starting point and I hope it works for you too.
But who wants to do the same thing for 33 days? To provide you with different experiences, and to provide a sense of variety the program provides a number of different ‘tools’ to choose from.
This self-paced program is designed to take you through simple stages with a singularity of purpose over a 33-day period. The singularity of purpose will be what you decide to focus your energies towards. This will be something you want to manifest in your life. Remember those words, “Something you want to manifest” as this is not focused on something you want to get ‘rid’ of or something you are resisting. Golden principle here, keep your focus on what you want to manifest and off what you don’t want to manifest. The program is powerful and colourful enough to allow you the excitement and curiosity to monitor your life events and see what changes come about. Commit to this program and changes will become evident.
One final and important tip as you begin this journey. This is important because most of us can be easily convinced that nothing is changing after we have undertaken some serious efforts towards change. Understand that the process of change follows a consistent and simple formula. As we engage in the process of change by evaluating and modifying our beliefs, the indicators – the evidence does not necessarily show up immediately. There is a momentum that continues to present the ‘old’ indicators in our life almost like a test to see if we really have changed our core beliefs. If we have Not changed within, then the evidence will continue to present as it has in the past. If on the other hand we have changed within, if we have change our core beliefs, then the external evidence will start to reflect this change.
Most of us question our ability to create ‘something different’ into our life when the external evidence does not seem to change. Remember the mantra “Circumstances do not matter, only my state of being matters.” (Darryl Anka – Bashar) In other words, the state of my being which results from my core beliefs is the only thing that can create matter – the only thing that matters. Do not be distracted or fooled by the outside circumstances. Again, when we focus on something and accept it to be true/real we energise its existence thereby causing the same ole, same old to be present.
This program is all about physics! The physics principles inherent in the following come from the neurosciences and quantum physics arenas.
Awareness & Recognition
Learn to be aware of what is happening for you without allowing yourself to be caught up in the attached stories. It is the stories we attach to events that cause pain in the form of anxiety, stress, anger, depression, powerlessness, and general feelings of lack. Recognise how you sense through vibrations both internally and externally. This is an energy based Universe and we all sense through vibrations especially the feelings within. This act of recognition is conscious awareness. This is a way for you to check in on what is happening within you, particularly as your Ego and conscious mind will continually and unapologetically make up stories to add into the mix.
Awareness Is the First Key! This is the first necessary step on any journey. Becoming aware of my experience and consciously choosing to act rather than unconsciously reacting. If you want a drink of water, you have to first become aware of a desire, or inner need to quench a thirst. Awareness of the “lack” of water in your system sets up a tension. Your mind provides you with this information, an indicator to dissolve the tension by quenching a thirst.
When you are in any type of pain (psychological, emotional, physical, spiritual), a similar process is activated. The pain starts when the mind starts to analysis the situation. Analysis always takes us into the past or into the future, and keeps us out of the present moment. Because of this, we often fail to recognise the ‘tension’. We will find ourselves caught up in the stories they tell themselves about the past and the future. Most people recognise these stories as the ‘problem’ and the focus goes on to the stories. Quickly, the stories become the focus rather than the ending of the tension.
There is potent flaw in the ‘way’ most people think as well as ‘what’ they think about. It has been determined that most people think 98% of the same thoughts today as they did yesterday. This flaw has most of us focused away from the solution and on to people, places, events, and objects we blame and shame for the existence of the ‘problem’. The flaw is that we focus on the stories, of which very few are real. These stories are either in the past which has gone, or in the future, which can only be imagined and planned. We do not have the whereabouts to change the past and we fill the future with many what-if imaginings.
If you are willing to take total responsibility for your own wellbeing and happiness (or lack of), the journey is exciting and faster. If you are not willing to let go of pointing at other people, places, events, or objects in an act of blaming or shaming, then this program may not be for you. At the same time, it cannot hurt you. If anything it might ‘hurt’ your cause i.e. the cause to blame or shame something external to your own power and potential. There is no judgement here! The only real judge ever, is you.
The starting point doesn’t require you to know what the problem is, nor what caused it in the first place. The starting point is about awareness, and in many ways it is about becoming mindful of what is taking place within you.
The first clue for you to notice is happening in your body. It is when you notice a sensation, or a feeling in your body that is less than comfortable. When you become aware of this sensation, use the following to name it.
Stop thinking! Open up to becoming mindful of what is happening inside of your body. Start feeling what is happening to your body. Stay inside your body observing the goings-on until you locate a specific sensation. Where it is located?
Next there is a list of 33 ways for you to investigate and action. Each has the power and potential to change the way you experience your life, and your world. These are techniques you can use alone or with others. Each is powerful enough to change your life and each has the potential to enhance your experience.
The suggestion is that you consider each technique consecutively, but you can choose randomly. When you choose a technique, read about it and then practice it for one complete day. Some people will like a particular technique and will want to play with that technique most days. Be flexible how you choose and how you operate while giving attention to the entire list.
Nobody knows what the first step of a journey look like until it is taken. It does not matter what that first step is or what it looks like, as long as it is a step. Choose your own action by taking a step on your journey. And if you stop or take a rest or go off into the swamp looking at the wildlife, choose to take another first step.
Nothing is more powerful than that first step.
There are 33 separate techniques you can play with. You are in charge of this program. Choose the techniques you relate with best. Every one of these Ways is a step in itself. Each one has the potential to make a difference for you even when you do not recognise a change. Some of these 33 Ways will be placed on to the backburner, and that is ok. There is no right or wrong way to do this program. This is all about choice – your choice. Take a step and see what happens. Then take another first step and see what happens. Then another, and another until you look back and recognise a journey.
Not one size fits all
There is value in testing each of these techniques, to find out which ones suits your frame of reference and unique situation. You may notice a closer association to one or more of these exercises.
The reason I have presented these particular techniques is because they have demonstrated the potential to bring about a significant change. I have demonstrated results with clients of all ages and situations, using one or more of these techniques. Any one of these Ways has the potential to bring about relief for your situation.
I don’t have the Drive
Boring kills interest and motivation. We take the focus off the goal, and place it on old patterns of thinking. It becomes too hard. When this happens some genuine and common responses might include:
“Even though they may be powerful, and even though I know they make a difference for me, I couldn’t be bothered.”
“I know gentle exercise like walking helps with depression, but I think what the hell. I do it for a short time, all keen, then it becomes too much.”
“Nothing works in the long term because I lose interest. I need it happening now!”
If this sounds like you, there are a couple of points you need to be comfortable with.
Bite off what you can chew. Distorted thinking would have you ‘trying’ to ‘fix’ what is causing the pain. The reaction is to ‘fix’ the entire problem in one move. This is where the infamous self-sabotage joins the parade. The trick however, is to make the problem smaller, and manageable. This way you do not set yourself up for failure. Moment by moment, bite by bite, is the most powerful way forward.
Find ways of treating yourself with compassion. Beating yourself up, putting yourself down, feeling guilt, engaging shame or blame, are all unacceptable ways of treating anyone let alone your Self. Recognise the situation for what it is without turning it into some epic catastrophe. Coach yourself to acceptance and appreciation. It is true what they say, guilt is judging your behaviour as ‘wrong’ while shame is judging yourself as ‘wrong’. Both blame and shame are attempts to dissolve the internal pain.
Understand your position
Understand your position in terms of where you have come from and where you are currently. Often we can be in an entirely different place to what you think. Sometimes you might ‘think’ things are not as good as they appear, and sometimes you might ‘think’ things are better than what they appear. How do you know which position to support?
You need to gain perspective! This might require professional support. Seek a practitioner who reads your stories and your energy, not a practitioner who reads the books and interprets your stories.
What EVER it takes
Making a commitment to your Self to do something, ANYTHING, each day towards your goal. Doing something can mean laying in your bed, feeling sorry for yourself and lifting one finger into the air three time in succession. Make the commitment and then do it. It might be to drink one drink of water with intent. Make the commitment and then do it. It might mean going without one cigarette, or one drink in a day. Make the commitment to yourself and then do it. It might be to look in the mirror and say to your illusion, “As small as it is, I am making an effort!” Make the commitment and do it. Avoid jumping to the end of your first step. One small step with purpose is more powerful than taking a giant leap and falling on your face.
Self-sabotage has no personality. It is an effect not a cause. Self-sabotage follows the Universal law of cause and effect. The cause – your current belief system. The effect – what you see after your ego does its thing. You may recognise a self-sabotaging process taking over. Recognise it early, your Ego is extremely smart and cunning, and it will do whatever it considers necessary to carry out its role. Its role is to protect you and make absolutely sure that your current belief system is supported to the last man standing. This however is not a sabotage program. It is the way you are set up to live in this world. In many ways it is a magical thing. The problem comes about because you have core beliefs that are ill informed or distorted from reality. Change the belief and you change your life.
Stop trying so hard
As you enter this journey, remind yourself to look at this as your personal experiment. This is a process that works so much better when you adopt an attitude of play rather than serious, an attitude of experimenting rather than expectation. There is no “I must do this!” or “I must make this work!” and certainly no “I must do this to please my (mum, dad, partner, God, the world)”
Write on the top of your journal’s page, “Resistance is futile. What I resist will persist. What I look at will dissolve! This will be fun!”
Drink clean water then drink some clean water. This is important for washing out the toxins out of your system.
Secondly, breathe naturally but maybe a little more mindful – deeper and slower. Throughout the day become aware of your breath and its rate, depth and length. Every now and then use a big sigh and let it all go.
Gentle exercise will allow the physical, mental, emotional and energetic aspects of your being to release toxins, rejuvenate the system and reconnect.
Ground yourself with Mother Earth. Take yourself into nature is one simple way of achieving this, alternatively check out the M.A.G.I.C. practice here.
Brief Process – First Aid
Let go of the External
Accept, at least for the moment, you cannot control much of what is happening outside of you. You can influence a limited number of external things and only for a limited time.
What you can influence, and control is your internal environment. Focus on this! When we are young, we reason that it is necessary to control people, objects, and events outside of our person in an effort to be happy. It is the other way about. Peace on the inside gives peace on the outside.
Recognise the Feeling
Stop and recognise that something is happening inside of you. Inside of your body, in your mind, in your heart, and in your spirit. This ‘something’ is a message from the Wiser part of you. It is telling you, there is a core belief you are living. A belief you picked up somewhere that you are now energising (moving your energy through). If the feeling or sensations you experience is less than happy, this means you are moving energy through a belief that is less than who you truly are. This belief is in conflict with what your Wiser or Authentic Self knows to be true.
Take three slow deep breaths holding each breath for the count of 5. Let them out slowly and purposely.
Focus on your chest and notice the area of your heart.
Place your hand on this area. Ask your heart, “What is the best word to describe this feeling?” Trust your answer and move on.
Ask the feeling what purpose it has, why has it presented and what message does it have for you about what you are thinking.
When the Pain is Intense – Recognise the Pain Body
Decide on the most prominent feeling in your body. There may be different feelings and there may be a feeling all through your body, but there will be one prominent location or sensation. Find it and focus on it.
Remind yourself this ‘feeling’, this ‘sensation’ in your body is what the brain has recognised as a disturbance in your system. It is a combination of biochemical, electromagnetic, and subsequent physiological changes in and around your cells.
Now speak to that feeling and say something like, “Thanks for coming, it’s now time to go. I want you to soften up and flow out of my system. Soften and flow. Find your own way out of my body. Soften up and flow. Soften and flow.”
Simply observe this sensation/feeling, watching from a distance. Important to STAY with it, simply watching it change and move. Observe the changes and movement of this feeling as you express your desire for it to soften and flow out of your body. Soften and flow, soften and flow…
Stay with this process observing and talking to it as it changes shape and intensity and finds its own way out of your body. Breathe with some intention, deep and slow.
Alignment & Grounding
Understand you have four parts to your holistic self. There is a physical part, a mental or thinking part, an emotional or feeling part, and then there is the energetic or spiritual part. The four parts need to be working together. If they are going in different ways, then you will be scattered. Scattered is what happens when you have been traumatised or stressed in some fashion, like when you are anxious, scared, powerless, or abusing drugs/ alcohol/medications.
What you want to do here is ground and align yourself. This will help you to be and feel stronger and more focused. From this place, you will be able to respond to whatever is happening outside.
The first step is to get yourself into a place of alignment with your Authentic Self, otherwise anything you choose to do will be done from a place of fear and lack of power. While the soften-and-flow process continues in the background, move your focus to the aligning of your physical, mental, emotional and energetic aspects.
Do this by visualising, imagining, or simply pretending that the four different parts of you are coming into alignment. Picture this any way you can, or simply know your physical body, your mind, your emotions and energy parts are falling into line one on top of other with the Authentic Self. Breathe and stay with this as long as it takes. Three or four minutes should be plenty time. You might say something like, “I align my physical, mental, emotional and energetic aspects with my Divine Self.”
Remember the soften-and-flow process happening in the background.
Next you want to ground your energy with the earth. Visualise, imagine, or simply know that you are sending down an energetic connection deep into the earth. Breathe deep and slow and see this connection going down to the core of the earth. Imagine what best fits with you making sure you are comfortable and relaxed. You might imagine/visualise sending down roots like a big tree, deep into the earth. You might choose to imagine sending two bolts of lightning or two rods down deep into the earth. If you want to get physical about it, take yourself out on the earth in bare feet. Connect with the earth literally. Again, stay with this until there is feeling of an inner knowing that something has changed.
From Disruption to Flow
Calm your energetic system by correcting the disturbance of energy flow through the meridian system. Trauma brings about a disruption in the energy system.
To re-establish balance, use two or three fingers to tap ten of more times on a number of acupuncture points while you focus on the dominant feeling still in your body. This technique is a rough version of Gary Craig’s amazing contribution to the world with his development of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT).
Your focus of thought will be on the dominant physical sensation in your body. If you do not recognise a dominant physical sensation find the dominant emotional sensation. Name it and focus on it. It is important to focus on the “pain” when using this technique. This is the ONLY time we can justify focusing on the “pain”. Any other time focus on appreciation and acceptance in life.
Start by tapping with your fingers on the underside of your hand. This is the area of your fist if you were to hit it on a table or make a karate chop. While tapping with your fingers on this soft tissue, focus on the “feeling” or “sensation” in your body. Say something like, “Even though I have this ……. feeling in my ……… I still love and accept myself completely.” Repeat these three times while focusing and tapping.
Next move your focus to a point where the eyebrow meets the top of the nose. Tapping here repeat something like, “This feeling of …….”. Tap here approximately ten times.
Move to a point on the outside of the eye where there is a hard bone. Tap on this point (left or right) about ten times while repeating the same or similar comment, “This feeling of…”
Use this same process as you tap on the following acupoints.
Under the eye about 25mm below the centre of the eye.
Under the nose on the top lip.
On the side of the jaw where the two bones interact.
Under the bottom lip.
Under the collar bone where there is a soft part.
Under the arm on the ribs about 100 -130 mm below the under arm.
On the back of the back of the hand on a point between the little pinkie and the ring finger just behind the knuckles. Tap here about 30 times while you breathe deeply and let go in the moment.
Finish by taking a big deep breath and blow it out. Take a mouthful of water.
Check in with your intuition and to estimate the size of the feeling now. Continuously tap until it reduces to a point that is better than when you started. Keep these processes up until the intensity of the feeling is between -3 and +3.
The second stage of this tapping focuses on to the dominant emotional sensation in your body. Use the word that best describes the dominant emotion within (e.g. anger, frustration, depressed, sad, anxious, scared, powerless, hopeless, etc…).
Ask your heart what is the size of this emotion on a scale of 0 to 10. Now start tapping on the underside of the hand and follow the same procedure while focusing on the physical sensation. Continue tapping on this dominant emotion until it reduces in size.
Check in on what is happening in your body. If there is any remaining discomfort, continue to use the Soften and Flow procedure as before.
Suggestion: use this process or parts of this process throughout your day. In the case of having a particularly uncomfortable day, use one or more of these tools. It might be an idea to set your alarm or phone to stop every hour and go through the process.
What does it do – In a study Emotional Stress, Heart Rate Variability, Grounding, and Improved Autonomic Tone: Clinical Applications (Gaétan Chevalier, PhD; Stephen T. Sinatra, MD, FACC, FACN, CNS. Integrative Medicine • Vol. 10, No. 3 • Jun/Jul 2011) report the following:
Improved balance of the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system occurs.
In patients who experience anxiety, emotional stress, panic, fear, and/or symptoms of autonomic dystonia, including headaches, cardiac palpitations, and dizziness, grounding could be a very realistic therapy. These patients may see positive effects most likely within 20 to 30 minutes and in almost all cases in 40 minutes
Negative emotions such as panic, depression, anxiety, and hostility have all demonstrated reduced HRV. Grounding has the potential to help support HRV, reduce excessive sympathetic overdrive, balance the ANS, and, thus, attenuate the stress response
(The Journal of Alternative And Complementary Medicine Volume 16, Number 1, 2010, pp. 81–87 ª Mary Ann Liebert, Inc. DOI: 10.1089=acm.2009.0278) Changes in Pulse Rate, Respiratory Rate, Blood Oxygenation, Perfusion Index, Skin Conductance, and Their Variability Induced During and After Grounding Human Subjects for 40 Minutes Gaetan Chevalier, Ph.D.
What is it – There is a fundamental need for all of life to maintain some connection with the Earth energy. This process is a simply means of making that connection.
How does it work – When you are grounded – connected energetically with the Earth, you are held in a firm position. A common analogy is the tree with its roots deep into the earth is able to stand tall and strong against the elements. This tree draws energy from the earth while allowing the earth to hold it steady. Without the roots deep into the earth you can imagine what might happen.
My image of what might be happening focuses on the electromagnetic field interaction between earth and your energetic field. When you are traumatised, distraught, stressed, angry, depressed, anxious, or otherwise off your mark, there is a disconnection with the earth. Alternatively, when the vibrational frequency of your energetic system is high, when you are in a place of appreciation and acceptance, the connection with earth is harmonious and supportive.
How can I do this – Suggestion is that you stand for the first few times you practice this tool. Once you are comfortable grounding and centring in different circumstances, you will be able to do it anywhere, anytime, and even when you are in a threatening situation. The intent of establishing or re-establishing a connection is enough in itself however, when you visualise, imagine, or simply know you have a connection the process is enhanced.
How does one know if you are grounded or not grounded? Typically, your most efficient indicators will be how you feel. Your emotional state in any moment is your good, better, best indicator of what is going on for you in any moment, especially if you want to know if you are grounded. When you are not grounded there will be feelings of disconnection, a feeling of being out of place, maybe a feeling of begin disconnected from life, fractured or flustered and all over the place, and always in the head, never in the heart. When grounded the feeling is more about feeling solid, centred, steady, sure of yourself, calm, and even when you have some nervousness there is certainty.
In terms of the practicalities of grounding you may wonder, “Do I always need to have my feet on the ground touching the earth?” and “Do I need to have a grounding mat or similar device?” The scientific answer is you do need to be electrically connected with the earth. What this means is different in different circumstances. As long as you are not insulated by way of rubber sole shoes for example, and you are standing on concrete or a conductive surface, you will be connected. Many people are using specially designed devices to achieve this state of electrical connection.
Within the M.A.G.I.C.™ practice there is no ‘right’ way to ground yourself. While electrically conductive means for grounding are not used, grounding is established through intention. Here effective grounding is managed and tested within the practice. This came out of necessity when there was a need for clients to ground themselves and going outside was not a viable option.
“When you’re connected to the power of intention, everywhere you go, and everyone you meet, is affected by you and the energy you radiate. As you become the power of intention, you’ll see your dreams being fulfilled almost magically, and you’ll see yourself creating huge ripples in the energy fields of others by your presence and nothing more.” ― Wayne W. Dyer, The Power of Intention: Learning to Co-create Your World Your Way
Become the tree – a visualisation: Stand tall with feet shoulder width apart and keep your eyes open or looking downward. Breathe deeply and slowly as if you are drawing in the air of life, the energy that worlds are created from. Draw this breath deep into that area below the navel (Dan Tien) visualizing that it is being stored there like filling up a balloon with white light.
As you breathe out, imagine, visualise, or pretend that you are now sending roots from the balls of your feet down through the floor into the earth. Continue to imagine that these roots are going deeper and deeper, growing bigger as they go deep. Each time you breathe in and out repeat the process until your roots are so deep they hold the planet firm.
The energy way – a visualisation: Stand tall with feet shoulder-width apart or sit comfortably with your back straight. Recognise that you are being pulled towards the centre of the earth by the invisible force you call gravity. As you feel the connection downwards with the earth breathe deeply and slowly as if you are drawing down through the top of your head a liquid light. Accept this as the Energy of Life and allow it to come into the centre of your chest area, your heart centre.
At the same time recognise a flow of energy flowing up from the earth’s core up through the floor, through your pelvic bone up into your heart area.
When you breathe out, visualise, imagine or pretend that energy is expanding out like a wave of light from your heart into every cell of your body and out into the wider world.
Continue to breathe observing the flow of energy down from the cosmos and up from the crystal core and on the out-breath this radiates out from your heart centre.
There are as many ways to ground yourself as there are imaginations. Play and look for the results.
What can I expect – To demonstrate the significance of grounding I often request permission from a client to give them a little push on the shoulder/chest. With this they will usually fall backwards a little or at least show some unsteadiness. After I take them through a grounding exercise, and I provide them with another push they will be strong and firm, just like a big old tree.
The next part of the demonstration is most interesting for me. I will talk about what is happening in the individual’s life, for example it might be bullying at school for a young person. When I talk about this they will think about it and focus on it as I talk. Next I will seek permission to give another push and what they notice is surprising. They will have lost their steadiness and strength. This is because when they think about stress-causing ‘stuff’ in their life they become ungrounded.
This same demonstration can by done using body language through muscle testing or Kinesiology, or ideodynamic signalling and produces the same results.
Generally, you can expect to feel calmer, steadier and stronger.
Hints and tips – Become so used to using this technique that you can do it anywhere anytime, experiment. Use it when someone is in your face or irritating your sense of calm.
If the visualising or imaging is a problem, move your focus to your feet as you stand or walk, recognising your connection with the earth. See yourself connecting with earth with each step.
Spending time in nature, in the garden, in water, all these provide opportunity to connect with the energy of the earth depending on your needs.
Recognise the Indicators Within
What does it do? – This first step is simply about stopping and recognising that something is out of balance (or not). Something is going on inside of you. Something is ‘wrong’, (or right) and there may be a particular word you use for this feeling (anxiety, anger, sadness, depressed, frustration, disappointment, powerlessness; joy appreciation, happy, grateful, calm, hopeful) Stop thinking and analysing. Observe what is happening for you as if you were outside of your body looking in.
What is it? – This is a simple process of detaching your awareness from the ‘problem’ or what is happening in the physical world and stepping outside of yourself to observe the vibrational indicators. The indicators are the emotions you feel in your physical body. In terms of quantum physics, those emotions which allow you to feel “good” are of a higher frequency, while those emotions which allow you to feel “less than good – bad” have a lower frequency.
How does it work? – By using a reference scale, you can recognise what is going on within your system (system here = physical body, mind, emotions, energy system). The Emotional Guidance Scale (EGS) which comes from the Abraham-Hicks material is an indicator of different frequency emotions you experience. These emotions range from the very best of feeling (appreciation, joy, love, abundance), to the very worst of feeling (powerlessness, despair, rage, hopelessness). By looking at some of the emotions you might experience between powerlessness on the bottom of the scale to appreciation on the top end, you are able to provide yourself with an indicator.
It is sometimes helpful to have some measure of the intensity of the feeling/sensation you are feeling. A simple way to go about this is to stop and recognise that something is out of balance. Take three slow deep breaths holding each breath for the count of 5. Focus on your chest and notice the area of your heart. Place your hand on this area. Ask your heart, “What is the best word to describe this feeling?” and “on a scale of -10 to +10 what size is this feeling?” Trust your answers and move on.
Alternatively, using your own body language (AKA muscle testing, Kinesiology), you can identify the most appropriate emotional descriptor word, and the level of intensity. Remember using a pendulum is the same as reading your own body language, so if you feel comfortable using a pendulum, feel free to explore.
Critical note here: this isn’t about focusing on a “problem” or looking to blame or shame. This is about recognising firstly there is an emotion or sensation in my body, and then looking at it rather than resisting in any way. Look at it and recognise the underlying belief you hold to support this result and it will dissolve. Alternatively, if you resist in any shape or form the problem will grow stronger. What you resist will persist – what you look at will dissolve.
How can I do this? – This process is simply and solely about recognising the sensation in your body, in the moment, and accepting it as an indicator. You are not broken or bad and there are not a million little green men inside of you poking you with pins. These are physiological measures or indicators of changes in your very cells resulting from thoughts. Some of these thoughts you are aware of and some you are not aware. To be able to do this effectively, you need to stop and recognise a feeling in your body in this moment – in the Now.
Often the act of recognising the emotion or feeling in your body and watching it from an observer perspective will significantly reduce the intensity of the sensation in your body.
With some practice, you will be able to quickly name the emotion with a feeling word. It does require some practice initially.
Trust your body language. I talk with young people about body language, how the Inner Mind uses this to communicate with our conscious mind and other people. I then show them how to use their own body language to communicate with their Inner Mind. I find this is best demonstrated by using a muscle testing technique, while the better way of teaching them to use it is by teaching them to use a pendulum. When the connection between a pendulum swinging and the body language is made, and how this comes from the Inner Mind, most people are comfortable to develops this communication.
To help you relax into recognising your indicators in any moment try setting an alarm or send yourself a scheduled text message. When you have a reminder-alarm stop and question “what emotion is flowing through my body now?”. Suggested questions you might use:
Focusing on the most dominant emotion in my body currently, what would be the best word to describe how I feel? “Is it anger; anxiety, fear, powerlessness, frustration, sadness, despair, depression, or is it joy, appreciation, hope, happiness, peace? Trust the first words to come to your attention and check the authenticity.
Where does the intensity of this emotion sit on a scale of -10 to +10? (Where +10 is awesome and -10 is extreme pain)
Play detective and ask your 20 questions until you have some insight into what might be causing the sensations in your body. For example, does it originate from a certain relationship you have or had? Does it relate to your finances, your accommodation, your life purpose, your work/career, your family, or some other aspect of your life?
What can I expect? – Develop a deeper understanding of you and how your emotional state is an indicator of what you are thinking but more, so it is an indicator of the core belief you are using to think through at that time.
Detachment from the problem and the pain while you observe what is happening inside your physical body. When you become skilled in this process you will be able to also observe what is happening in your thinking mind, as well as inside your emotional world and your energetic world.
Hints and tips – Play with the concept of trusting you inner knowing to guide your awareness.
If you are unsure of the authenticity of using a pendulum, continue to include statements or questions that check this validity. For example, stating your name needs to draw a “yes” response while stating your name as something other needs to draw a “no” response from the pendulum.
For a list of general emotional states use a list of smiley faces or consider the Emotional Guidance Scale in Abraham-Hicks’ book Ask and It Is Given.
This Is an Inside-Out Game
What does it do? – Life is an inside-out game with no timeouts, no rehearsals, and no second attempts. Everything we believe, think about and feel an emotion about is IT.
This concept says to you and the rest of the world, you are in charge of your life, and you are consistently making choices which create your next experiences. It says you have the ability to respond, are taking responsibility for your experience. Living from the inside-out means you are focused on what is going on inside of you first and foremost. You are more interested and focused on your feelings and state of being than you are focused on circumstances outside of you. Remember, circumstances don’t matter only my state of being matters!
This allows you to access the Energy that worlds are created from; what quantum physicists refer to as The Field. When you consciously focus your thoughts and emotions on creating what you want, The Field is influenced directly by your combined thought/emotion focus. Now you begin creating what you want to be, do and have in this lifetime. Not what your parent wants. Not what society wants. But what you want. With this awareness combined with renewed empowerment, you don’t have any choice but to make this world a more joyful experience for you and for those with whom you connect. Why, because you are connecting with, and using the non-judgemental, all-accepting Energy, and this act will ensure your choices come from a place of benevolence.
Seeing your life as an Inside-out game allows you to experience a sense of relief from the turbulence that is the mindless world. It reminds you that you have some power and you are a freewill choosing life, with your thoughts. This allows you to let go of the extraneous issues that do not concern you, are not your business. This locates you in a state where you are more aligned, grounded, and effective when responding to the needs of the world. This going within allows you to support Universal unification and let go of separation.
What is it? – This is a way of living, or a way of ‘being’ rather than anything else. In many ways, this is what has been referred to as the Tao. It has no name. If you are not living from within then you are not living. You are existing, surviving, managing, and spending your energy jumping from rock to rock. You are resisting any falling into the stream. When in reality if you were to allow yourself to let go and fall into the stream you could go with the flow – no resistance. When you live life as an inside-out process, you jump from rock to rock enjoying the rocks, the feeling of freedom to jump, and the possibility of being in the water. Enjoy it for what it is – it is an ongoing everlasting process of life.
This is recognising that when we live inside-out rather than on the edge, we access our greatest power and potential. This is the only place to access our power. It is a way of thinking and feeling in the moment.
Living your life from the inside-out acknowledges what is happening on the outside of you is the perceived illusion, and what is happening on the inside is you is a real experience.
How does it work? – It moves your focus off what you really cannot control 100% of the time, and places it on to the only thing you can control – you. It moves your focus from the external and places it on to the internal, which is where the source of All-of-life Energy is accessed.
Living from the inside-out ensures that you live consciously and purposely. Anything other opens you up to living the life someone else wants you to live – a parent, a partner, society or your insecure Ego.
My underlying core beliefs create my reality. The beliefs I have about myself and this world direct my thoughts, feelings, and behaviours which results in the experience I have.
Thoughts and feelings come after I activate a belief or set of beliefs.
The experience follows my consistent thoughts and feelings.
The reaction or response then comes to confirm the underlying belief through which I have been directing my energies (thoughts and feelings).
An analogy to consider: If I wanted to build a house there are certain resources necessary. First, I will need an architect to draw up my plan – the blueprint for the house building. This is aligned with my belief system. Next, I will need a builder to build the structure. This is akin to my emotions. Thirdly I will need materials so that the builder can assemble them to form the building. The materials are akin to my thoughts.
Imagine if the architect was to draw up a blueprint that was out of alignment or crooked, the builder would have a difficult time constructing the building. Alternatively, the end result would be something much different to what I wanted. Imagine if the materials were inferior, I would end up with a less than acceptable building. That is if the builder could build with those materials in the first place.
The idea of living from the inside-out is that I am more aware of the building which is taking shape. If I decide that I am not happy with the integrity of the building I have the freedom and responsibility to change the blueprints. One the blueprints are correct then I can control my emotions (builder) and I can control my thoughts (materials).
How can I do this? – Begin by recognising where you are now. Notice the indicators within, the feelings you are experiencing. Next, take notice of the indicators in your external world. Notice the people, places, events, happenings that are impacting on you right now.
Understand your world and the people, places, events and objects are a reflection of your current thinking which comes from your belief system. So, the individual in your life who is pressing one of your triggers to feel ‘bad’ or feel ‘good’, this is the person who is offering themselves as an indicator for your current thinking. What this interprets as is that if you have an angry person in your life and this person is stimulating an emotional response within you, then you can be sure that something inside of you, something you are believing about you in this world is presenting as an indicator – a messenger in your external world.
The best place to start always is in the beginning and the best place to focus is on how it will “feel” in the end. When you begin to appreciate where you are in terms of where you want to be, then you have a point of reference to make conscious choices about what you want to be, do, and have in your life.
How do you want to feel inside when you are in a particular situation or circumstance? When you are there, how would that feel? What are the feelings associated with being in that place that you imagine? Once you are aware of a number of feelings you might experience when you arrive, ask yourself, “Where else in my life do I or have I experienced those same feelings?” Next, go and be in those other places or circumstances so that you are feeling the nominated feelings. This way, what you create inside will come to be on the outside of you.
Play, play, play, play with the idea that you are a projector, projecting outwardly an image of your world. Play at being the architect you want to be drawing up the blueprints you think will give you the house you want. Remember you can always redraw the plans. Consciously choose your most dominant and consistent thoughts and feelings about people, places and events in your life and check out the results in your building.
Most people, most of the time, think the same thoughts today as they did yesterday (99%). Choose consciously which thoughts you want to entertain; which ones allow you to feel more appreciative rather than focusing on the lack of something in your life.
It is a powerful statement, “If you don’t go within, you go without.”
What can I expect? – Expect a waning of the tension and a reduction in the size of the problem. By recognising you cannot control everything (no thing) outside of you all of the time. While you may ‘influence’ what is outside of you for a period if you are bigger, faster, smarter, have more power, more money or servants, the reality is you cannot control anyone or anything. You can only influence.
Expect to become more aware of your feelings and thinking in any moment and notice how your physical body tells you what is happening. There are only two emotions – love and fear. These two are known by other names such as good and bad, or appreciation and resistance.
Hints and tips –
Awareness is the key here. When you make a conscious choice to be aware of your in-the-moment state of being, you allow yourself to make choices about where you go next. Experiment! Adopt a particular state of being or particular emotional state that you can recognise on the inside. Then go about your day looking for people, places and events that reflect this state of being back to you.
Decide to Interrupt the Process
What does it do? – This short-circuits the process which is causing you to feel less than, anxious, angry, sad, and so on. By interrupting the process of your thinking, you are directly controlling how you feel, and this is the key to everything you want to be, do and have. Remembering, the universal principle says, what you attract into your life is a direct reflection of what you think about and feel.
What is it?– This is a technique for adjusting your cognitive processing. That is, it is designed to break the momentum in your “type” of thinking and the “type” of thoughts you think. It is all too easy for most people to become engaged in obsessive, obitual, repeat-pattern type of thinking. If allow, this type of thinking can get to a point where it appears to be controlling you rather than you are controlling your thinking. The truth is that your thinking (and your feelings) never control you. It is always that you allow your thoughts and or your feelings to gain momentum, and subsequently control your state of being.
Similarly, most people find it all too easy to become caught up in the momentum of their emotional state, their feelings. Instead of recognising the feelings as an indicator or a message from their heart, they tend to judge the particular feeling as either “good” or “bad”. Feelings or emotions are indicators of what you are believing about you in this world. You then have a choice to continue believing or thinking these same thoughts or an option to consider replacing them.
This process assists you to think thoughts and consequently feel feelings that are more to your liking. It is in effect, the process of making a choice, and another choice, and another choice, and another and another, until you are on the path you want to be following.
How does it work? – It works by placing the power back into your hands. What often happens when you become caught up in thinking about a subject in terms of what that means about you in this world, you are lured and then entangled. You become so caught up in the drama, the emotional domination, the fear of some future event or the tension of a past event, you give away your power to choose.
By interrupting the process, you make a choice to push the reset button. In any moment you have the power to push the reset button and reinvent yourself.
Sometimes all you need is for someone to offer you a nice alternative to your current pain to snap you out of the ever-decreasing circle. Working out how to provide yourself with this alternative will provide an opportunity to stop and reset. This is the key.
How can I do this? – Practice, play, practice and play until you notice a difference in your everyday responses.
Become aware of your thoughts in any moment through the day. Ask yourself if these thoughts are serving your greater good or otherwise, then make a choice.
Know you have the power, the resources and the capacity to make this interruption. Just because you haven’t been doing this or you feel a lack of confidence doesn’t mean you ‘can’t’.
What can I expect? – There will usually be some doubt in your mind as to whether you are actually making any progress. Remind yourself that there is always some momentum involved when you have been practicing a particular thinking pattern for some time. Realising that you are thinking about what you have been thinking about and, recognising some difference is the indicator that you are on your way. The momentum will dissipate soon enough.
After you have interrupted the process a few times it will become a part of your toolkit. Like any practice, you will need to train yourself while seeing the end goal.
Hints and tips – Know that the process you are currently engaging (compulsive or negative thinking) is what you are wanting to interrupt. This is a process that you trained yourself to engage, and you can train yourself into another process.
Practice, play and practice-play some more is an invitation. This is not a “Have-to!” “I Must!” thing. This is an invitation to play and reinvent yourself.