A 12-year-old male presented with a problem best described as rage. He had previous diagnosis of Asperger’s and ADHD from previous practitioners with subsequent attempts using medication failing. He had been breaking coffee tables, punching holes in the wall, yelling, screaming and generally argumentative.
His parents were at their wits end after they tried mainstream responses including a boxing bag. While this kid was dealing with some challenges as an individual in this world where “different” is seen to be an excuse and a target for bullies, he was frustrated with his lot. He couldn’t explain or understand why he was the target and why he was different.
Most of all he couldn’t explain why this ‘rage’ was controlling his life and he was powerless to do anything about it. Powerless to change who he was, powerless to change the difference between him and other kids, powerless to stop the bullies, and powerless to explain why him.
At our fourth session, he reported that the rage had stopped. When asked what changed, he simply shrugged his shoulders as adolescents do and said, “Dough-know!”. I asked what he was doing differently, and again the response was a shrug of the shoulders and a grunt, “Dough-know!” When asked if he still got angry, he replied “Yes, of course!” like that was even a question. Asked what he did when he got angry, he replied he couldn’t think of the name it was called.
This is where a practitioner’s ability to centre and ground is critical for his or her own wellbeing. When I asked him, what is it that you do exactly when you get angry, he was able to place a name on it. He was able to tell me, “putting my roots in the ground”. I responded with a little jump in the air, “You mean the grounding?”
This kid was sending his roots down into the ground like a big tree to dissipate his anger. After three sessions he was grounding himself when he felt angry. He grounded himself at school most days and sometimes he would do it in the morning before going to school.
The rage went away. He didn’t use any other techniques.
A teacher uses M.A.G.I.C.™ in the classroom
“The children saw the magic and reflected it back at me.” These were the words of a 25-years-old school teacher. Originally, she was referred by her general practitioner with generalized anxiety and stress which had impacted on her physical health. N had enjoyed her teaching until this year. With a new class came a new ‘class’ of parent and a new ‘class’ of challenges. These children were wonderful at the beginning of the year but now they were disrespectful to one another and to her as a teacher.
“It didn’t matter how many times I pulled them up on their behaviour, how many lectures I gave them about respect, or how many times they were sent to the office. Nothing seems to work. The worst part of this job is dealing with the parents and admin. Parents treat you like crap and admin treat you like you are dumb. I go home every day exhausted and wanting to drink. I spend nights checking my emails in case a parent has complained.”
After learning about the M.A.G.I.C.™ practice N decided to take it into the classroom. She reasoned, if she could use it for her own sense of calm and peace, she might just be able to introduce it to her class. In the beginning N always started with grounding herself and so she introduced her students to the idea of sending their roots deep into the earth. N told me how a 5-minute pause at the beginning of the period having her class send their roots deep into the earth had an immediate and powerful effect for the entire period.
N and her children were calmer, more focused, and there was definitely more respect shown. No more lectures and no more reason for lectures. N went on to teach the class how to ground themselves, use mindfulness to calm, and appreciation when worried, sad, angry or scared. Now to deal with ‘those’ parents.
He Couldn’t Love Me – I Couldn’t Love Me
He didn’t love me, I didn’t love me, then I found a new relationship with my soul through M.A.G.I.C.™ It had been coming for some time and like many relationships, especially when kids are part of the equation, P was aware the relationship with her husband was destructive for herself, her husband, and the children. Tensions had been rising and the psychological, emotional, social and spiritual abuse was part of her and her husband’s everyday game.
Now he was wanting a divorce, settlement and his right to blame and shame. Regardless of how much intellectualising, blaming and shaming either of them engaged in, P realised the destructive powers of maintaining a long-term relationship that was fuelled with resentment, anger, victimisation and a desperation to ‘make it work’.
When she presented, P was tearful, spending a great deal of her time crying, screaming, and releasing a rage that seemed to come from her very core. We used the practice of Insight to begin the journey of healing. Through the process of insight, we used body language (aka AK) to investigate the trapped emotions as defined by Dr Bradley Nelson. This investigation and intuition combination allowed P to come to a place of deep insight into her current status based on past experiences and belief system.
Here belief system had been protecting her all of her adult life concomitant with destroying any hope of true love and happiness. We established that P had what Bradley Nelson calls a heart wall. This means of self-protection, was preventing anyone from hurting her like she had been hurt as a child. The problem was it was doing such a great job it was also stopping any chance of genuine love reaching her heart or coming out.
With insight came a burning desire to find inner peace and personal freedom to be herself in this world. P had children in her care and it was now her passion to become her true self. Underpinning this was the need to provide her children with an example of their potential and what was possible even in the worst of circumstances. M.A.G.I.C.™ was what P considered to be a “lifesaver”.
“This practice literally saves lives. It provides someone in a place of powerlessness and desperation with a sense of power and hope. It provided me with a way to dissipate my rage, find insight into my current state in this world and a way of connecting with myself and spirit. I always wanted to believe in Spirit but could never find the practical everyday way to go about this. M.A.G.I.C.™ allowed me to do all of this and within a few weeks I was feeling compassion for the man who rejected me.”
From anxious chippy to meditating bikie
“When I was first introduced to this practice I walked away thinking, what tha… did I get myself into. I had been to see psychologists before and while they were nice enough, it never seemed to make any difference. I continued to be anxious and angry all of the time. While Paul was way out there, and I had serious doubts about his techniques, I figured what have I got to lose. So, I tried it and what do you know, things changed pretty well over night.”
P was a carpenter by trade and his understanding of the world was a long way from what the M.A.G.I.C.™ practice says. The way P understood how this world worked was in conflict with the principles and essence of the practice. The principles underpinning M.A.G.I.C.™ did not fit into his perception. Most of what the practice promotes, was foreign to P’s world and yet when he stepped up and engaged the practice his world turned around.
Soon his anxiety and panic attacks, the anger which I didn’t really acknowledge, all changed over a period of two to three weeks. P went from living on the edge of always being anxious, working long days, worrying what was happening to him, questioning his sanity and ability to live in this world, to going home every day after work and sitting in the garden for fifteen minutes practicing mindfulness meditation.
“Go figure!” was all he could say when last we spoke. P was using the M.A.G.I.C.™ practice regularly in his day, he was feeling in control of his life, his anxiety had dissolved, and he had insight into his anger which allowed him to address some significant issues in his life.
A primary school teacher & young mum goes from reaction, to calm
K is a teacher dealing with the everyday issues that teachers face. Significant in this list of issues are the challenges presented through parents and the challenges presented by ‘the system’ often know as administration and fellow colleagues. The following is K’s story of how she came to know and practice M.A.G.I.C.™
“This is a note to say thank you for everything you have taught me. In particular I wanted to tell you about a couple of situations I found myself in and how M.A.G.I.C. showed me another way. These were the type of situations that are or were common in a teacher and young mum’s life. Before I started practicing M.A.G.I.C. these types of situation had the power to drive me to drink, and then I would continue to stew over the injustice and disrespect shown by others for hours, days even.
The first instance was at school. There was another staff member, a parent and myself having a discussion – difference of opinion about a particular child and the circumstances around this child. There was a great deal of tension and for me there was no possibility we would come to a win-win outcome. Then I remembered the M.A.G.I.C. trick.
That old M.A.G.I.C. thing that I could engage anywhere, anytime for any reason. Well that was all I needed. I started to repeat a mantra of “M.A.G.I.C.! M.A.G.I.C.! M.A.G.I.C.!” over and over in my mind and heart. I really didn’t think it would change the outcome but I did want to calm me down.
As I sung the mantra over and over in my mind, I noticed a significant change in what was happening around me. The conversation changed in its tone and content to one of calmness and purpose. There was a presence of win-win that hadn’t been there before and it was certainly taking me by surprise. Before too long the conversation had concluded and we had a win-win outcome.
I was blown away. In fact, I believe there was a smile on my face that I took home with me. With this and a couple of smaller experiences in my bag I took on another situation in which my emotional scale was well into anger and some sense of powerlessness.
The anger and powerlessness came from an experience while driving to the shops. I had my three children (twins age 6 and a two-year-old) in the car. It didn’t help that the kids were screaming and finding ways of pressing all of my buttons at the same time.
As we were driving there was this undisciplined, disrespectful, ignorant or maybe just thoughtless driver came into our life. Immediately, I felt my blood pressure rise and my emotions reach a peak.
Maybe I should say my blood pressure went up a lot more and my emotions became overwhelming. I must say, I am usually a patient and calm person, but…A little voice went off in my head, “M.A.G.I.C.! Use the practice!” I began to breathe a little slower and a little deeper and engaged the M.A.G.I.C. practice. I stated with grounding myself right into the earth, deep and strong. It took a little effort but it worked.
This felt good and it was encouraging. Then I practiced mindfulness, where I was, my children, then came appreciation and before I knew it, I was connecting with spirit saying, “thank you!”
M.A.G.I.C. is truly a powerful and empowering tool for me. It has changed my life by allowing me to see events and people in my life with a sense of appreciation and positive expectation. Now my children feel the change and they act out my sense of magic. Thank you!”
Work made me sick. I needed a pill
T was a 29-year-old male who was referred with depression, substance abuse and physical manifestations of stress. “My doctor said I would benefit from seeing a psychologist to help with my stomach problems.” He was introduced to a holistic approach to supporting his own wellbeing. This included making changes in the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual quadrants of his life.
T was introduced to the practice of insight which allowed him to access and clear away his own emotional pain. With the use of a pendulum (this is body language in another form), he was able to continue his own clearing and healing process with spaced-out sessions with me. With an immediate positive change in his physical and psychological state of being, T decided to learn as much as possible about being his own practitioner.
He was introduced to the practice of M.A.G.I.C.™ and this allowed him to have a blueprint, a road map if you like for his own journey of healing. Like many others, T associated strongly with meditation and particularly mindfulness meditation. The benefits were inspirational for his engaging the entire practice. This worked well and eventually he began to engage M.A.G.I.C.™ throughout his day.
This took a little while, but it eventually dissolved his depression along with the need for substances, and his health improved. The added bonus as T would describe it was, “I am now finding I can deal with work stuff, like the jerks onsite as well as that ***** little leading hand.”