Make a commitment to become your own bestest friend in the world
Making a commitment to your Self to do something, ANYTHING, each day towards your goal. Doing something can mean laying in your bed, feeling sorry for yourself and lifting one finger into the air three times in succession. Make the commitment and then do it. It might be to drink one cup of water with a loving intention. Make the commitment and then do it. It might mean going without one cigarette, or one drink in a day. Make the commitment to yourself and then do it. It might be to look in the mirror and say to your illusion, “As small as it is, I am making an effort!” Make the commitment and do it. Avoid jumping to the end of your first step. One small step with purpose is more powerful than taking a giant leap and falling on your face.
As for self-sabotage, remind yourself self-sabotage has no personality. It is an effect not a cause. Self-sabotage follows the Universal law of cause and effect. The cause – your current belief system. The effect – what you see after your ego does its job. The Ego has you figured out and it is extremely cunning. It will do whatever it considers necessary to carry out its role. Its role is to protect you and make absolutely sure that your current belief system is supported to the last man standing.
This however is not a self-sabotage program. It is the way you are set up to live in this world. In many ways, it is a magical thing. The problem comes about because you have core beliefs that support a reality that you do not prefer. Change the belief and you change your life. Change your belief and your ego will do whatever it considers necessary to support that belief.
As you enter this journey, remind yourself to look at this as your personal experiment. This is a process that works so much better when you adopt an attitude of play rather than serious, an attitude of experimenting rather than expectation. There is no “I must do this!” or “I must make this work!” and certainly no “I must do this to please my (mum, dad, partner, God, the world)”
Write on the top of the page in your journal, “Resistance is futile. What I resist will persist. What I accept/appreciate will dissolve! This will be fun!”
Drink clean water then drink some clean water. This is important for washing out the toxins out of your system. Secondly, breathe naturally but maybe a little more mindful – deeper and slower. Throughout the day become aware of your breath and its rate, depth and length. Every now and then use a big sigh and let it all go.