The only way you can ever control anything in your life
33 Ways for 33 Days #5
Life is an Inside-Out Game
How to take charge of your life
What does it do – Life is an inside-out game with no timeouts, rehearsals, and no second attempts. Everything we believe, think about, and feel starts and finishes within.
This concept says to you and the rest of the world, you are in charge of your life, and you are consistently making choices that create your next experience. It says you have the ability to respond, i.e. responsibility for your experience which is another way of saying, “It doesn’t really matter what happens to you rather, it matters how you take it.”
Living from the inside-out means you are focused on what is going on inside of you, your thoughts and feelings first and foremost. You are more interested and focused on your feelings and state of being than you are focused on circumstances outside of you. Remember, circumstances don’t matter only my state of being matters!
This allows you to access the Energy that worlds are created from; what quantum physicists refer to as The Field. When you consciously focus your thoughts and emotions on creating what you want, The Field is influenced directly by your combined thought/emotion focus. Now you begin creating what you want to be, do, and have in this lifetime. Not what your parents wanted, and not what society wants. But what you want. With this awareness combined with renewed empowerment, you don’t have any choice but to make this world a more joyful experience for you and for those with whom you connect. Why, because you are connecting with and using the non-judgemental, all-accepting Energy, and this will support your choices to come from a place of benevolence.
Seeing your life as an Inside-out game allows you to experience a sense of relief from the turbulence that is the mindless world. It reminds you that you have some power and you are a freewill choosing life, with your thoughts. This allows you to let go of the extraneous issues that do not concern you, are not your business.
What is it – This is a way of living, or a way of ‘being’ rather than anything else. In many ways, this is what has been referred to as the Tao. It has no name. If you are not living from within then you are not living. You are existing, surviving, managing, and spending your energy jumping from rock to rock dependent upon what others think, say, and do. When you live life as an inside-out process, you jump from rock to rock enjoying the rocks, the feeling of freedom to jump, and the possibility of being in the water. Enjoy it for what it is – it is an ongoing everlasting process of life.
This is recognising that when we live inside-out rather than on the edge, we access our greatest power and potential. This is the only place to access our power. It is a way of thinking and feeling in the moment.
Dr. Wayne W Dyer is known for saying, it makes no sense to worry about something you don’t have any control over. Alter all if you don’t have any control over them then it makes no sense to worry about them. Likewise, if you do have control over them then it makes no sense to worry about them because you have control.
How does it work – It moves your focus off what you really cannot control 100% of the time, and places it on to the only thing you can control – you. It moves your focus from the external and places it on to the internal, which is where the source of All-of-life Energy is accessed.
Living from the inside-out ensures that you live consciously and purposely. Anything else opens you up to living the life someone else wants you to live – a parent, a partner, society, or your Ego.
My underlying core beliefs create my reality. The beliefs I have about myself and this world direct my thoughts, feelings, and behaviours which results in the experience I have.
Thoughts and feelings come after I activate a belief or set of beliefs.
The experience follows my consistent thoughts and feelings.
The reaction or response then comes to confirm the underlying belief through which I have been directing my energies (thoughts and feelings).
An analogy to consider: If I wanted to build a house there are certain resources necessary. First, I will need an architect to draw up my plan – the blueprint for the house building. This is aligned with my belief system. Next, I will need a builder to build the structure. This is akin to my emotions. Thirdly I will need materials so that the builder can assemble them to form the building. The materials are akin to my thoughts.
Imagine if the architect was to draw up a blueprint that was out of alignment or crooked, the builder would have a difficult time constructing the building. Alternatively, the end result would be something much different from what I wanted. Imagine if the materials were inferior, I would end up with a less than acceptable building. That is if the builder could build with those materials in the first place.
The idea of living from the inside-out is that I am more aware of the building which is taking shape. If I decide that I am not happy with the integrity of the building I have the freedom and responsibility to change the blueprints. Once the blueprints are correct then I can control my emotions (builder) and I can control my thoughts (materials).
How can I do this –
Begin by recognising where you are now.
Notice the indicators within, the feelings you are experiencing.
Next, take notice of the indicators in your external world. Notice the people, places, events, happenings that are impacting you right now. Understand your world and the people, places, events, and objects are a reflection of your current thinking which comes from your belief system. So, the individual in your life who is pressing one of your triggers to feel ‘bad’ or feel ‘good’, this is the person who is offering themselves as an indicator for your current thinking.
What this interprets to is that if you have an angry person in your life and this person is stimulating an emotional response within you, then you can be sure that something inside of you, something you are believing about you in this world is presenting as an indicator around the issue of anger or similar vibration. This is a gift to you from your external world.
The best place to start always is in the beginning and the best place to focus is on how it will “feel” in the end. When you begin to appreciate where you are in terms of where you want to be, then you have a point of reference to make conscious choices about what you want to be, do, and have in your life.
How do you want to feel inside when you are in a particular situation or circumstance? When you are there, how would that feel? What are the feelings associated with being in that place that you imagine? Once you are aware of a number of feelings you might experience when you arrive, ask yourself, “Where else in my life do I or have I experienced those same feelings?” Next, go and be in those other places or circumstances so that you are feeling the nominated feelings. This way, what you create inside will come to be on the outside of you.
Play, play, play, play with the idea that you are a projector, projecting outwardly an image of your world. Play at being the architect you want to be drawing up the blueprints you think will give you the house you want. Remember you can always redraw the plans. Consciously choose your most dominant and consistent thoughts and feelings about people, places, and events in your life and check out the results in your building.
Most people, most of the time, think the same thoughts today as they did yesterday (99%). Choose consciously which thoughts you want to entertain; which ones allow you to feel more appreciative rather than focusing on the lack of something in your life.
It is a powerful statement, “If you don’t go within, you go without.”
What can I expect – Expect a waning of the tension and a reduction in the size of the problem. By recognising you cannot control everything (nothing) outside of you all of the time. While you may ‘influence’ what is outside of you for a period if you are bigger, faster, smarter, have more power, more money, or servants, the reality is you cannot control anyone or anything. You can only influence.
Expect to become more aware of your feelings and thinking at any moment and notice how your physical body tells you what is happening.
Hints and tips –
Awareness is the key here. When you make a conscious choice to be aware of your in-the-moment state of being, you allow yourself to make choices about where you go next. Experiment! Adopt a particular state of being or particular emotional state that you can recognise on the inside. Then go about your day looking for people, places, and events that reflect this state of being back to you.